Temper Tantrum Tamers
Posted on December 20, 2010
Many children exhibit bad behavior beginning at around age two. This is a very normal part of growing up as at this age, a child begins to want to become more independent. They realize that they are their own person and not just a part of you and seek ways to exert that independence. Many children at this age start to throw a temper tantrum every time they do not get their own way.
The temper tantrum is usually very disconcerting, to say the least, for parents. This is especially true because it is done in the presence of others who look on with shock and horror. No place is safe when it comes to a child throwing a temper tantrum- the supermarket, the bank, a party – anywhere. In fact, it seems that the more a parent may be on guard from bad behavior of the child, the worse the behavior gets.
So what is a parent to do when their little darling starts exhibit the bad behavior that suddenly seems to turn them into a little monster? There are many ways to handle bad behavior in children. The number one way is to not react with your own bad behavior.
One way to handle a temper tantrum is not to react at all. This is best when the child is in a place where they are disturbing as few people as possible. Obviously, you do not want to just ignore them when they are putting on this display at church, a restaurant or other place when they are truly annoying others. Bad behavior usually starts at home. The best thing to do is to ignore the temper tantrum until the child is over it. The child wants you to react, which is the sole purpose of the tantrum. By not reacting, you are not giving your child the satisfaction. They may soon learn that this is not an effective way to get what they want.
But suppose the bad behavior of your child takes place in a public place where you cannot just ignore it? What if the temper tantrum is at a store or venue where they are disturbing others? You should then remove the child from the environment and place them somewhere that they are not around others. If they want to continue the temper tantrum, fine. Allow them to continue until they are finished. Then go about your business. They will soon learn that this bad behavior is not getting them the desired results.
It can take some patience to deal with bad behavior in children. The second worst thing that you can do is to react to the temper tantrum. This gives the child a sense of control. They quickly figure out that this behavior will get them attention and are more likely to do it again.
The worst possible thing that you can do is to give in to their demands. This will encourage them to continue with a temper tantrum every time they want something. This also continues way past the age of two and can last until adulthood.
Hitting the child does not work, although you may be sorely tempted. The time out chair only works for an older child who can understand the consequences of their actions. But as this type of bad behavior starts at the toddler age, punishment is ineffective as they do not yet have the ability to reason. In order to quell the bad behavior in children, you need to catch it at an early age and realize what is making them act out. By not reacting to the temper tantrum, the child will soon realize that this is not a way to get what he or she wants.
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